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In the past few weeks, I asked for a wide variety of Christians' perspectives on what the relationship should be between the life of a Christian & bad language/cussing/profanity/etc. 

 

It's something that is so deeply rooted into our day-to-day culture. 

Yet, never addressed specifically. 

It’s thrown around in our films like confetti,

yet censored on our radio.

What do we do?

 

It's easy to have the cookie-cutter answer of

"no, don't say it, wrong, bad,"

but I wanted to hear the "WHY" if the answer is indeed --

"no, don't say it, wrong, bad."

 

It’s become easy and too common for us to say, “Yep, it’s in the Bible!” and not point to the specific text.

We cannot continue to live our Christian lives without having a deep understanding of why we follow what we follow;

otherwise, we're robots. Morally optimistic, fake robots. 

I think being a morally optimistic robot is the opposite of what the Gospel is about. 

I don't think faith means following blindly.

Faith isn't walking around, following a bunch of "have-to's" and saying "God's got it!" -

Faith is an educated decision.

We are to seek knowledge and wisdom in our walk with the Lord (Proverbs 2:6, Proverbs 1:7, Isaiah 11:2, James 1:5, 1 Peter 5:5-9, Hebrews 6:1, etc.)

 

These amazing people below gave their insight, backed with Biblical truth, and they don't have the same answer.

I don't provide an answer at the end either.

 

The responses below are from both men and women, of all ages,

From seminary students and professors,

To high school students,

To people in the work force,

To really great moms.

 

I hope you take the time to sit, read, and wrestle with these responses in relation to your own life.

Feel free to comment your perspective at the end. 

 

(*Disclaimer: Post does contain some profanity. Identity is left anonymous in order to maintain objectivity.)

 

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1. Seminary Student -

We can all agree on one thing: our words have power (James 3:5-6).

In fact, it is evident that words have the power to both build up and tear down (Proverbs 15:4, Proverbs 18:20-21, Proverbs 12:18-19, Proverbs 15:1-2).

Truly, our words reveal the intentions of our hearts (Matthew 12:34, Proverbs 4:23, Luke 6:45, Proverbs 15:28), therefore we must choose our words carefully (Proverbs 21:23, Proverbs 10:19, Psalm 141:3, Psalm 39:1, Proverbs 13:3, Proverbs 21:23, Proverbs 17:27-28).

While a word is just a word, the intention is purposefully derived and motivated by our hearts when we intentionally choose a word. If the ultimate purpose of our lives is to glorify the Lord (1 Corinthians 10:31, Colossians 3:17), then I believe our words and intentions behind our words should model this as well. We should also be cautious to make sure that our words are not empty space fillers or defiling (Matthew 5:11, Ephesians 4:29) and don’t cause anyone to stumble (Romans 14:21-23). While I believe that we can be forgiven for our improper speech and the intentions behind our words when we confess and seek forgiveness (1 John 1:9, Psalm 32:5), I think that we should ultimately seek to speak differently than the world and use our words to stand out (Colossians 4:6, James 1:26, Psalm 119:171-173), which does not leave room for cussing as edifying by intention in a broken world (Romans 12:2, 1 Peter 2:9, Philippians 2:15, Psalm 1:1).  

 

 

2. Early 20's in the Work Force -

First, I’ll admit this is hard for me. It’s something I’ve actually been working on lately, and here’s why: I’ve been very concerned with the whole “walk the walk and talk the talk” mentality my whole life. Growing up, I met Christians who talked the talk, but didn’t walk the walk, and it turned me away from God. Now that I am a Christian, I strive to be a good example for non-believers. We can’t just focus on those Christians who say all the right things but live in sin. We need to also acknowledge that living a good Christian life but using curse words is walking the walk, but not talking the talk. It goes both ways, and either one can seem very hypocritical from an outsider’s perspective, and even turn people from God. If our Great Commission is to make more believers, then shouldn’t everything we say & do (talk & walk) align with scripture, and point towards God? See James 1:26, “Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” If we don’t lead a good example by refraining from using foul language, then that one simple thing we do wrong can blind people to the goodness of Jesus.

 

 

3. Early 20's Youth Pastor -

I think the question about the relationship between a Christian and society's cuss words is a bigger deal than most people think it is. The bottom line is that this issue goes back to warning Paul gives us in Romans 12:2 that "we should not conform to the patterns of this world." We are called to be a light and stick out so that we can lead the lost to the freedom and glory of Jesus Christ. If we act and look like the rest of the lost world, it makes it hard to realize what exactly changes us when the Holy Spirit enters our heart. It's tempting for us to see this as a small issue, but the implications behind it mean a lot more than what meets the eye. James 3 warns us of the poison that can exists in the tongue, and we need to learn how to control it because the tongue is like a rudder of a ship. Although it is very small, it has the power to change the direction of a large ship. Our tongue has the same type of power in it to not only change our direction, but also affect our surroundings and the people close to us. This is a topic that I think needs to be taken more seriously in the Christian community.

 

 

4. Early 20's Self-Employed -

So here’s how I see it. “Cuss words” or bad words or whatever are just words, it’s the intent behind them that becomes the issue. Proverbs tells us that the power of life and death lies in the tongue. In the case of curse words, the world has put malice, hatred, and disdain in those words. They hold the power of death. We, as Christians, are supposed to be showing the love of Christ to others, showing the light of the Living God. How can we do so if we’re speaking death into existence?

 

 

5. Mid 20’s Self-Employed –

The only clear instruction the Bible gives on profanity is to let no unwholesome talk come out of our mouth. This is left vague, and how this applies to four letter words is something you need to work out between you and the spirit. But do actually work it out (!!!), and wrestle with the way that your language affects you and those around you and then follow where the spirit leads you in your language.

In my opinion I feel strongly we shouldn't use 4 Letter words - they aren't uplifting, encouraging and they DO cause others to stumble whether it's degrading to others or confusing for new Christians, etc...

Also this isn't a clear thought or anything but Christians NEED to stop saying Gods name in vain / it's a commandment! I just don't get it…

 

 

6. Early 20's in the Work Force-

Thoughts about words:

If a sinful society even deems certain words “bad,” how much worse would our perfect God deem them? 

Our words always reflect what’s in our hearts (“for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks” Luke 6:45 ESV), whether or not you are conscious of it or not. Sometimes, we might find ourselves saying things that we “didn’t really mean” but deep inside our hearts, we really did mean. 

Why do you cuss/complain/talk badly about others? Is it to bring someone down? Is it to get others to pity you or get attention? Is it to feel accepted within your social circle? Do you feel yourself being influenced be those around you? If so, are those people the kind of people you should be hanging around? (See Proverbs 13:20 and Proverbs 18:7)

In the end, our speech and our words are just a symptom of the sin in our hearts. We have to be willing to reflect and really get down to the root of the problem of our unclean hearts to be able to truly purify our words.

 

 

7. Early 20's Youth Pastor -

I’m a person who didn't grow up in a Christian home and became one at 18 and cussed a lot while I was in high school. I feel that the relationship between a Christian's life and cuss words a touchy/cautious one. I believe that Christians should be honest to who they are. If you're uncomfortable with cussing then don't, and if it doesn't bother you, then by all means go for it, in the right context. We are still called to be lights in a dark world. I feel that if you're around friends and family and they are ok with it and know your heart for Jesus and again you're comfortable with it, then let it rip, but it goes back to knowing your audience and being mindful of what is going on. There is also context. 

Is it appropriate in the situation or not? It comes down to whether you personally cuss or not and deciding when it is ok to do so. 

 

8. Girl's Minister -

In Luke 6:45, Jesus says, “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.”

This is a verse I hold fast to because so much of the impact we have in the world involves the words pouring out of our mouths (which is ultimately from our hearts). In James, it says the tongue is a fire. Clearly, it has an immense amount of power, and as believers, we are called to use it for building up and encouragement. As Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Never once has profanity ever “given grace to those who hear”. It just simply doesn’t. There are so many words in this world to use, and to use one of the few “profane” words instead of selecting another suitable one, is absolutely ridiculous. At the end of the day, what we do and the words we say should bring glory to Him. If it’s not pointing others to Jesus, we’re not doing what we’re called to do. 

Your words will either point people closer to Him or further away. Let’s do what we were called to, in all that we do, and all that we say (1 Corinthians 10:31).

 

9. Nurse & Mama -

I love this question because cussing is definitely something I struggle with and you asking this question is super convicting and great for me to think about. I think as a Christian we should not use profanity at all. The first verse that comes to mind is Ephesians 4:29 "do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."

Using profanity in no way helps build someone up or encourages them to be better. So many places in the Bible it talks about the power of words and the power our little tongue has on people. Instead of using profanity we can use loving and encouraging words to show the grace of God and show how he changes our hearts. 

 

 

10. High School Student -

Profanity is as old as time. A specific set of words that has morphed with time and culture yet each shock worthy in their own right. Growing up in a modern Christian home where I’ve always been allowed to ask “why?” Curse words was like the one thing that was off limits. Not intentionally - but just carried this standard of evil I quite honestly never fully grasped why. I can infer why such things aren’t profitable and I understand the Bible says not to curse. But for the life of me I can’t understand why it’s such a taboo topic. Even this week I verged the muddy waters with my mom and she replied with furrowed brows and a “you get why that’s terrible right?” And I think that is the problem. We’ve made huge strides in past years of defeating legalism - yet we keep raising generations of kids who know what not to say but have never learned why. We see it as a black and white topic when it is really anything but. And as we have all seen telling someone not to do something only encourages them to rebel more. I am so excited for this blog and think it is time we open up the forum! Out of all the studying I’ve done this is the thing I’ve never truly understood but I’m excited to learn. I’m hopeful that we could make a culture that asks “why” does God say this instead of “what” I can’t do. We have a great God who cares about heart intent. I would love to study more so the ways God yearns to protect us and see what happens when everything we say flows out of that truth and not out of law. I think it would change the way we speak and cultivate a culture learning, of faithfully doubting church culture and leaning into Christ’s words.

 

 

11. CRU Missionary -

"...for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks." Cursing and the language we use should not be controlled by do's and don't's. To simply not use foul language as a behavior modification is not what God calls for, he calls for a transformation of the heart. Because of Jesus's death for our sins, we gain deep affection for Him, realizing that our lives are no longer our own, but we live for him because he died and took the punishment for our sin. Therefore, as we shift the purpose of our lives to glorifying Jesus, I believe our hearts will be aligned with his- and out of that our mouths speak. Not out of our culture, or of what is cool, but out of our affections for our King. 

 

 

12. Youth Pastor & Seminary Student -

I believe swear words are one of the many ways God has given us the language to communicate in powerful ways. Swear words are unique in that a single word conveys a depth of meaning that invokes emotion in another person. Consider how different these statements feel to you when read. "Slavery is wrong."

"Slavery is fucking wrong."

We have no other words in our vocabulary that allow us to evoke that kind of passion in any context. 

You should also do some reading about Philippians 3:8. There is a long history of the word σκύβαλον that is most akin to our word for shit. Most bibles translate it as garbage or even excrement, but the word was cruder in its context. The text reads so much more passionately when we replace trash or garbage with shit. "All things are shit compared to Christ." The swearing allows a depth of emotion that our normal words cannot access and makes Paul's statement so much more passionate and his comparison far more stark. 

 

 

13. High School Student -

Ephesians 4 has a lot to say about unwholesome talk; the Bible makes it clear that we are, whether in word or deed, do it unto God and not man, letting our words glorify our creator. So the question remains - what isn't glorifying to the Lord? Well, I don't believe that specific letters put together are inherently evil while others are not, so it totally depends on the context of the situation. For example: we could probably agree that calling someone stupid and mocking them without cussing isn't glorifying to God. But if in rare circumstances, when your friend is, say, going through a divorce, I genuinely believe that the blunt expression of "sometimes you find yourself in shitty situations and I don't have an answer but I'll be here for you" can be encouraging and compassionate in a time of great trial. So to summarize: There are many times in which cussing is absolutely inappropriate, such as when it's used to insult or hurt someone. Furthermore, if it presents you in the wrong light, it's also not glorifying to God (so like if the generations above mine heard it who equate cussing with disrespect). But, if it passes those criteria, and you are confident that those hearing it understand your heart behind your words, then I believe that cussing isn't inherently disqualified from our mouths. It's all about what is glorifying to God. That takes an understanding of context and discernment, which can only be found with constant leading of the Holy Spirit and a firm comprehension of God's word.

 

 

14. Youth Pastor -

Great question. Generally I believe it’s best to avoid profanity mostly because it’s loaded language (James 3). There are better ways to express yourself w/o utilizing aggressive/toxic/insensitive speech.

 

 

15. Early 20’s in the Work Force -

Christians today get very caught up on profanity as if the words themselves are sinful. I grew up around profanity and such words because my parents were the kind of people to use them, I have heard it all and admittedly it has seeped into my vocabulary. The truth behind profanity and its relationship with Christianity (specifically scripture) is that it’s been common place since the creation of language, the problem is when malicious intent is put into the words. Take for example Luke 13:31-32 Jesus himself calls a man a fox, now in today’s society that means nothing but back then being called a fox or a dog was seen as a great insult or “curse word”, but in this instance he uses the phrase descriptively instead of hatefully. There is nothing instinctively wrong or sinful with curse words, because they are just that, words but used to harm and with malicious intent is when words become sinful. On the other hand as Christians I do believe that we should speak as cleanly as possible because unclean words can lead to a path of sin.

 

16. Early 20's in the Work Force

As a high school girl, I was very involved in sports and extremely competitive. I was also an outspoken Christian at my school. I led Bible Studies, served as our class Chaplain, and sought to live a very moral life. During my years of playing sports, my competitive spirit would often overpower my regular personality and send me into a very mean-spirited attitude. Not only did I act with unkindness to others as I played sports, but I also became very frustrated with myself when I didn’t perform in the way I wanted to.

During my sophomore year of high school, I had a conversation with a teammate during practice that truly altered the rest of my high school career. I remember our coach had all the post players at one end of the court doing drills. It was one of those days that I was frustrated with myself and disappointed in the way I was playing. Every time I made a mistake, I would let out a cuss word under my breath. Over and over again, mistake after mistake, I cussed and cussed. I remember a girl coming up to me, and in a condescending tone said, “Aren’t you supposed to be an amazing Christian leader? I thought Christians didn’t cuss like that.”

I’ll never forget that practice. I’ll never forget where I was standing, who said those words to me, and the way the conviction pierced my soul. She was exactly right. Wasn’t I holding myself up as a Christian leader? How hypocritical of me to act like a devout believer with strong moral stances, when I was using language like that.

I didn’t think they would notice. I didn’t think they would care. They used those words. Why couldn’t I? Because as a follower of Christ, I’m held to a higher standard, and rightly so. Not only did I hold myself to a higher standard, but others did, as well. During that practice that day, I recognized the repercussions of cussing. The common argument is that "cussing doesn't hurt anyone." No, cussing doesn’t always directly hurt someone, but it most definitely hurt my witness as a representative of Christ.

Most of us justify cussing as “not that big of a deal” because they’re merely words. But, as a follower of Christ, we’re held to higher standards. Remember that as a Christian, your words represent Christ.

Believers and non-believers are watching you when you claim to be a Christian. Live a life worthy of your calling. Your life may be the only picture of Jesus another person sees. Display His character well.

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

(Ephesians 4:29)

If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless. (James 1:26)

Obscene stories, foolish talk, and coarse jokes—these are not for you. Instead, let there be thankfulness to God. (Ephesians 5:4)

 

 

17. Discipleship Minister -

Quick answer. Ephesians 4:31-32 commands a way to treat each other and Matthew 12:44 tells me that my mouth speaks what my heart is full of. Rarely is society aiming to build up one another through that language. And if that's a practice it may be 'fruit' of a heart that is filled with bitterness, rage, etc... so it's not so much a don't do it but a what might be at the heart of the reason you do...

 

 

18. Mom in the Work Force –

As a strong woman of faith I desire my language and the language of others to be pleasing to God.  I fail at times and I am ever so grateful for grace!  I believe our society is very flippant with profanity and it is unfortunate.  However, as I am given grace from God, I extend that to others.  I am not easily offended unless the Lord's name is used in vain. 

Ephesians 4:29 English Standard Version (ESV)

29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

 

 

19. College Student, Theatre Major -

I see language as a very creative endeavor, for words only have the meaning we give to them, otherwise they're just sounds. I personally don't cuss a lot, it's very rare and only with people who understand the use of the words the way I am using them, which generally have been a way of emphasizing what I'm saying. The words no longer mean what they originally meant. "F***ing" is often used as an emphasizing word rather than saying something derogatory and sexual. Its context based. In contexts where I know the words will be considered offensive or inappropriate, I do not use them. And I generally want to present myself as someone who uses my words well because I am representing Christ to young people, old people, my peers, my non-Christian friends, etc. I think like anything, if it's hindering you from being a light to the world, don't speak those words or be around them, especially in media. But cuss words are a large part of our culture and I see a value in understanding how people, generally non-Christians, speak and use language to communicate, because we need to be able to communicate with them. 

Basically I don't think curse words in themselves are bad, they're just sounds, but we must be aware of how the language we use affects others, and if the effect is negative or not like Christ, whether on you or others, then don't use that language. I think negative comments that lack curse words are often more harmful than curse words. 

 

20. Mid 20’s Minister-

Here is my answer on cussing and cursing.

The Bible passes judgement on things that are unchanging. With that being said, language is something that changes meanings as it progresses. This is why Bible verses on cursing someone differ from the ones that talk about unwholesome talk. Both cover the speech of a person, however, each part of speech is covered.

Cursing -

Whether we curse someone by using inappropriate words, or by using acceptable ones, we are still cursing them. Using any word that establishes someone to be less than what God created them to be is considered cursing. Since blessing them would be establishing them to the fullness of what God created the person to be. Matthew 5:44, Luke 6:28

Unwholesome Talk -

In Ephesians 4:29, and Ephesians 5:4, Paul makes a comment on corrupting talk. This basically covers any other talk that is not covered in the commands not to curse another person.

Result-

Even though words change as a language evolves, God’s word does not. The word goes to the heart of the problem, not just the result. If we are genuinely following Christ, then we won’t curse anyone with any word, and no talk that is unwholesome will come out of our mouths.

In short -

Cussing is a cultural thing, Cursing is a God thing. Culturally, I am ok with cussing, but other cultures are not ok with cussing. Cursing is never ok, regardless of culture.

 

 

21. College Student, Church Music major & Nanny –

I struggle with the topic of Christian’s swearing. The Bible is clear that Christians are not to take God’s name in vain and they are also not to take part in “foolish talk or crude joking” (Ephesians 5:4). For me the misuse of the words hell and damn are the two most difficult to reconcile. Hell can be used to describe a great time (“a hell of a time”) and it can also imply that something is of hell through the statement “what the hell.” Both uses seem unnecessarily strong for any situation. “Damn” is thrown around freely - “damn _____” or even the use of GD imply that Christians are either are oblivious to the true meanings of those phrases or just don’t care about the weight of the words being used.

Other swear words can be used for emphasis in certain situations, and I believe they are often well used when people are making points. I do believe Christians are called to do everything in love and to live a life that is synonymous with worship though… that said, I struggle to justify even the most well placed “shits” and “fucks.” I suppose I should reevaluate the lack (or excess) of fucks I give.

 

 

22. High School Student –

For me personally, a huge part of my personal testimony and walk with the lord has revolved around his call in 1 peter 1 "to be holy as I am holy." And yes, holiness can and will look different, but I've come to understand that it should impact everything I do--especially what I say. Then we're also called to constantly set an example in speech and conduct, and whether I choose to use language or not heavily impacts my witness in my circles. I think especially for girls who are in leadership positions that it's not how God intended. We're to be examples of grace and beauty and meekness (power under control, not weakness!). And if we're cussing, which typically is not a glorifying or uplifting thing, then we need to evaluate our hearts.

Needless to say, none of us are perfect, and grace is a real thing. Life happens & bad language slips, but it's our heart at the end of the day that should be in pursuit of alignment with God.

 

 

23. Early 20's in the Work Force -

So Romans 12:2 says “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind” and James 1:26 says “If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.” These are the first couple verses I could find because, if I’m honest, the Bible is _extremely_ consistent in its promotion of speaking “virtuously”.

Now before anyone asks “Yeah but where in the Bible does it say “don’t say F***”? Let me address that it doesn’t! But what it DOES say is that we should love each other with consideration and wholeheartedness. It ALSO says that the tongue is full of deceit and venom. Thus, pretty much all swear words (if you ask me) are sin in that we aren’t loving those around us well. So long as it bothers _literally anyone_ to say any cuss word OR SLUR, a Christian should NOT say them. It is an example to the world of living in humility that you would have the compassion to refrain from saying the words that would hurt people simply because they were uttered.”

Bonus: “When have cuss words ever been used to promote love? When have they been a standard of righteousness? Why can’t “I love you” be enough and instead you feel the ~need~ to throw the F-bomb in that sentence? And _why_ does the F-bomb being wedged between that wonderful sentence make it sound so....vile? And if it doesn’t, why are those words meaningless to you?

I have no idea why these words are so bad. I really don’t. But I do know that the world views them as bad -- that a non-Christian would see a Christian cussin' it up and think “He’s just like me! There’s no difference between us!”

And that should be a PROBLEM to us.

 

 

24. English Masters Student -

My personal stance on swearing is that it is less inherently problematic than it is symptomatic. Luke 6:45 tells us that a person speaks out of the “abundance” or “overflow” of his heart. In this sense, our words serve as a litmus test of our spiritual health. So often, bad language is driven either by anger, or by that breed of vanity which would have us look cool and edgy in front of others, and I think that anger and vanity are more fundamentally problematic than the words themselves. Does that mean we shouldn’t try to develop good habits and “bridle our tongues”? Of course not. But trying to curb your swearing while neglecting these other issues is a bit like treating a cough and ignoring the virus that’s causing it—take your Ricola, by all means, but visit the doctor too.

 

 

25. Girl's Minister -

At the end of the day, I think it’s about speaking life and spreading hope. So I think we should strive to always do those two things, while recognizing we’re sinful and flawed people that won’t always get it right. 

 

 

26. College Student, Religion major -

When Cussing is okay 

•Transparency: Holding back from God with language puts God in a far off place. To be fully transparent is to sometimes to allow yourself to lose control.  Involving talking to God in solitude to cuss, to get angry, to allow yourself to divulge the deepest darkest parts of you is customary to real change. It is confession.

•Adapting and using similar language to the people you are with as the Spirit convicts: With this if you feel cussing is something that you are convicted not to do in the presence of other people then you should not, but I do want to note a passage. In 1 Corinthians 9:19-23, it talks about becoming something for the sake of the gospel. I think that adapting to the language of other people is similar to this. Scenario: If you are in a place that most people in the ordinary day language use cuss word I think it is okay to use these cuss words when proclaiming the gospel because it is taking the power that the cuss words have been used for and pointing it to something else. It is also saying to that person hey I am getting down in the dirty with you, I am not judging you, I am not trying to force something on you, but I am showing you the love of Christ by being willing to adapt to what you need. 

When Cussing is not okay 

•When convicted by the Spirit not to do so 

•When involving crowds that have triggers towards cussing: I do not think that it is appropriate for a pastor to get up on the pulpit and start spouting cuss words at everyone. But I do think that it is okay for that said pastor to be in a room of very close small community and in a moment of vulnerability let’s out how a cry of lament using a cuss word

•Using the words to defame or abuse someone else: The above cussing is okay is all based on casual cussing pointing towards lament or casual conversation. Cussing is never okay when pointed at someone for name calling and abuse.

 

 

27. Seminary Professor -

Holiness and profanity aren't a set of rules. What brings life is holy, and what brings death is sinful, or profane. Any words which tear down or bring death are profane whether or not they are cuss words. And sometimes so-called cuss words can be used in holy ways. 

 

 

28. Seminary Student -

One of the very first things that comes to mind when the topic of cussing in Christianity comes up is my own relationship with “dirty” words. When do I cuss and what is the motivation behind it? What first comes to mind is anger. In moments of extreme frustration, and sadly without hesitation, I will yell out a word not typically in my vocabulary (anymore). I typically excuse it believing that I did not mean it or think it through. However, James 1:19 comes to mind. In those situations I am not being slow to anger and certainly not slow to speak. I feel as if this can be the case for most typical Christians who try not to curse but let it slip occasionally. This allows a culture of quick outbursts that should not be excused. 

 

 

29. Stay-at-Home Mom -

Jesus said “I am the Way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to my father, except through me.” As Christians, when we accept Christ, the Holy Spirit comes and takes permanent residence in our heart. Our words truly reflect what is in our heart. If we claim to have the One True God living within us, nothing but righteous words should flow from our lips. Paul says in Ephesians 4:29

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen”

Think about it...would it ever be possible to use profanity and still have a pure heart? 

I can understand how someone might feel that if you're with the crowd that is cussing, that in order to relate to them you should use cuss words to make yourself seem more relatable. On the contrary. Do you think that when Jesus walked among the lowly, he transformed himself, and acted different? Love is a universal language. Compassion is a universal language.

If you feel that you have to use verbal trickery in order to relate, Satan has sold you a bill of goods.

If you look up the root words, or the derivation of most profanity, it is not pretty. It is not holy. We are supposed to be setting ourselves apart. That is what is supposed to draw people to us. The fact is, we don't need to speak like that. People really don't want to use profanity. I'm sure in heaven they won't cuss. How did it even get started? Cussing started when people couldn't find words to express themselves, or to shock somebody. It's quite sad really.

 

 

30. College Ministry Coordinator -

Here is my theology on why I choose to not cuss...I grew up in a denomination where cussing was whittled down to sin. I was taught by my church that cussing was as bad as dancing, and sex, and drinking. Where I have found freedom in dancing, and responsible drinking, and sex within marriage, cussing has remained an interesting thing.

I don’t believe that there is sin in a word as much as there is sin in the thought and/or motivation behind it. Even so, I believe there IS sin in the ‘un’thoughtfulness of using “BAD” words.   What I do know is that there are many, many people who are looking for light. There are also many people who believe that cussing is wrong. I also believe that as a believer I am not to ever cause anyone to stumble and I am to live my life above reproach. To shine light.  To me, this means that I am responsible for how people see Christ in me.

I have arrived at a place in my personal life where I believe, for me, if I say anything that would cause a person to flinch, wince, or have to cover their child’s ears, I have not shown people the love of Christ. In the same way, you may see me drink a glass of wine, but you will not see me in public order more than one - so one cannot get the idea that I am a lush. It’s a matter of living in a way that someone may ask, “Why doesn’t she” instead of the more often, “I didn’t know that Christians ...” or in the worst case scenario just think less of my character for the simple use of a word. 

I will say, that I feel like it is due to the fact that the world has said it is wrong, or labeled the words as bad, has impacted whether or not I will use them. Again, if a mother feels the need to cover her child’s ears because of what comes out of my mouth, I have lost the ability to speak into her life...I have lost trust. I think it is more of a sin for me to go on speaking in offensive terms for the sake of a habit than for me to use the word itself.

 

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I hope this post has been encouraging and informational for you.

I trust these people and the fact that there is tension in their opinions is truly intriguing to me.

 

Let's live

and wrestle in this tension

and continue to strive to look more like Christ.